Style does play a big role in whether or not you get attention from women, what kind of attention that you get, and in a lot of ways – the way in which someone perceives you. Sometimes we’d like to think that this doesn’t matter one bit, but we all know that it does. What can be hard to do is to figure out what your style is and how you can use it to help you get better with women. A lot of guys never figure this out and they either have pretty much no style at all or they go ahead and try to copycat someone else’s.
I used to see a lot of this when I went out to clubs and you’d see guys dressed just like their favorite celebrities. Most of the time, they did this because they really didn’t know who they were and what they were about and so, they just took someone who was in the limelight and figured if they were carbon copies of a celebrity, that would mean that they’d get tons of attention.
The problem is, that for most guys, the style that they choose doesn’t mesh with who they actually are. When that happens, you come across like a poser and although some women may be drawn to that, a lot of them won’t be and if they are at first, they’ll find themselves losing attraction pretty quickly.
Here are some tips that can help you figure out your style and let it mesh with who you are:
1. To develop your own style, you have to know WHO you are.
This is really the foundation that you have to build if you can and you should take the time to figure out who you are. It’s really a breath of fresh air when you meet someone who comes across as though they really know who they are and that helps you out a LOT if you want to get attention from women. The reality is that most guys don’t know who they are and that is why they don’t have their own style.
2. You have to understand that if you do have a distinct style, it won’t appeal to EVERYONE.
One of the worst things that you can do if you want to get good with women is to try to appeal to literally everyone. When you do that, you end up coming across as being too generic. You have to be cool with the fact that you are not going to appeal to literally everyone and that is okay.